Intuitive Business Advising

This is a story of a client that I worked with that will show you what is possible for you through my intuitive business advising.

(Details in all cases have been changed to protect client confidentiality.)

Dillon called me because he was feeling frustrated with his work situation. He had originally worked in a large metropolitan city prior to being transferred by the company to a smaller, more sedate city. His new position was high-pressured and entailed long hours. He was unhappy with the transition. In the first three sessions, we primarily explored what things about his work duties he enjoyed and what in his past work and life felt happy and fulfilling. When he went into his trance state during the fourth session, we explored what a happy, fulfilling work environment looked like, as if he was already in it. We accomplished this by having him play a game with his mind, imagining going to his near future and seeing himself in his optimal work environment and life.

Our goal was to help him create or access a mental, subconscious filter for “happy, prosperous work and life”, so that he would have a gut feeling of what that felt like. Then he was more likely to naturally gravitate to the action steps he needed to take or people he needed to contact to make that imagined scene a concrete reality. When he came out of trance, we discussed in more detail what he had seen and felt. He clearly described the types of people he was with, what work he was doing, how much he was making, and he saw himself in a different city, one that was more metropolitan and high-powered. He realized what key factors were important to him in his work life. We also explored any action steps he felt called to take.

He committed to do the simple action steps of contacting certain people that had popped into his mind during the session, along with practicing the tools he’d learned during our sessions. About seven months later, he came in for another session. He was ecstatic, saying “It happened just like I envisioned in our last session: I got the job I wanted in the city I wanted, and I’m moving next month!” And, his new position had higher salary.

The power of the mind is incredible. If you learn to trust it and use it to your benefit, you can achieve amazing things. Instead of working “bottom-up,” i.e., going from the details to the big picture, learn to work “top-down” by creating your big-picture mental filter. This process weeds out busy work and leads you to the most effective details and action steps to focus on to make your ideal work or business a reality.


Green Business Consulting & Advising

This is a story of how I took a green rehab project from start to finish, and I can help you do this process as well.

One of my passions is eco-housing, especially blending sustainable energy-saving features with co-housing-like community building elements. Much of health psychology, sociology and transpersonal psychology, and many spiritual traditions point to the benefits of community – mental, physical and spiritual health benefits. The great psychologist BF Skinner wrote about it early on in Walden Two, others later wrote about it in Ecotopia and Bowling Alone. I write this article to help inspire you to inspire you to create more community in your own life.  Many people lead disconnected, frazzled lives – it impairs their mental, physical and spiritual health. A big way to improve lives, happiness, and productivity is to re-structure the way we do community. Will you join me in helping to create a more vibrant society?

Recent research has shown that there are tangible stress relief and health benefits to being part of a social community. For example, researchers Cohen and Hoberman (1983) found that high levels of perceived social support can help protect you from the negative effects of undergoing stressful life events.

The more integrated we are in our community – the more we get amazing health benefits, such as significantly reducing our likelihood of developing:

• Colds
• Heart attacks
• Strokes
• Cancer
• Depression

Note that integration can include close family ties, friendships, social groups to which we belong, or associations we have with civic, neighborhood or spiritual groups.

Social isolation has been shown to deplete the immune system and increase blood pressure. The social disconnection trend (noted in books such as Bowling Alone by sociologist Robert Putnam) has been called one of the biggest public health threats to our nation. Therefore, it has tremendous costs to individuals as well as to our communities and cities.

It’s because of my experience as a health psychologist, intuitive advisor, and community member, that I am passionate about helping programs that foster community ties, community beauty and community-mindedness.  It’s good for our soul, our public health, and our economy.

On a personal level – I came from a poverty-ridden family, raised by a divorced single mom. I learned to be hardy and motivated through this experience – putting myself through college and graduate school and eventually buying my own home at age 24.  I saw through this experience that single moms especially face the challenge of social isolation – oftentimes not having enough support in child rearing.  Then, I became a parent myself and saw how helpful it is to have a network to rely on. All of these experiences led me to explore how I could best foster more community connection in my own neighborhood.  I was especially drawn to eco-housing projects.

Since there wasn’t an eco-housing group in San Diego, I decided to make my own next best thing.  In 2009, my family and I sold our house in the suburbs, and started looking for property where we could build something that modeled eco-housing – occasional shared meals, community events with neighbors, shared organic gardening, composting, grey water recycling, community projects and art, and a network of neighborly support.

So, after we sold our house – we still hadn’t found a new place to which to move to develop our dream.  A bit over a year ago, we had to live in our RV at Campland on the Bay. It turns out that living in the small RV as a house is a very different thing than living in it as a home base while traveling. When you travel, you just need a place to eat and sleep. When it’s home, you need a place for everything, and, well, there isn’t room. Tempers frayed more than once – including the cat’s. So, we used up all the time share weeks, vacation time, and options for time away from the RV as we could, as the clock ticked towards 5 months in the RV.  We ended up finding a property that was very run-down but met our requirements:  it has 3 units and a quarter acre of land that was in a thriving urban walk-able community.  We had much work to do to make it livable, but I knew we could do it. Even though that house was still being worked on, we moved into the bedrooms. There was no door on the bathroom. The heater wasn’t working. Most days (including weekends) the workers would be going by 7AM. The kitchen was torn up. But at least we weren’t in the RV any more.

Since 2010, we have taken the property, and crafted it, rebuilt it, and made it both a home and the center of a thriving and growing community.

Some pictures of the transition and nice features:

Community Pic 1

And the bathroom…

Community Pic 2

A few examples of how the former occupants left the place. Interestingly, he just asked to “Friend” me on Facebook… which I thought was hilarious!

Community Pic 3

A detail of our low water front yard, with meditation spiral

Community Pic 4

Two of the planters that we added in the back yard for the community garden- watered with gray water from the kitchen sink and the tub. Someday, I’ll make that stump into either a chair, or the base to a “tree house” for Delilah.

Community Pic 5

Community Room

Community Pic 6

Some of the dear folks during a recent community dinner. The tables are made from two of the original doors that were left on the property.

We have a renter who is an awesome community minded lady that lives in the apartment in the back. We have opened up the RV (which we can fit in our back yard) for guests on weekends. We share meals with neighbors. We have a monthly community dinner and community events. We walk to Balboa Park, the farmers market, the grocery store, and the restaurants. They restaurateurs know us, as does the clerk at the store. We’ve paired down to one car so we walk more and save the environment. We have made two raised planters for an organic vegetable garden with our neighbors, have set up gray water recycling systems, are building a composter, and hopefully will be building a chicken coop soon…

We love our community-oriented housing and neighborhood. But this is just the beginning. It is a small piece in the community puzzle. I want to help others grow their communities. I want to help revitalize neighborhoods so that they foster more community interaction. Let’s not run into our house alone at the end of the day as the garage door shuts behind us. Say hi to your neighbor, or visit your locally-owned neighborhood café to chat with your friends and savor a nice cup of tea together.

Drop me a line about any efforts (small or large) you are doing to improve your community.

‘Money Muse’ (c) Barbara Cox